WHAT I OFFER
C-P-R-T
Training
C-P-R-T Training (also called Filial Therapy) is a research-based, 10-week parenting course that teaches parents how to use some of the same skills that play therapists use to help children experiencing social, emotional, or behavioural difficulties. Research shows that motivated parents can be as effective as a professional in helping their child. Over the 10 week course you will begin to see a noticeable difference in: Your relationship with your child Your child’s behaviour Your ability to respond effectively Your confidence in your parenting skills IS CPRTT FOR YOU? As a parent do you feel like you're off track? Do you find yourself shouting at your child more often than laughing? Do you feel you have lost touch with your child or are not as close as you’d like to be? Do you feel frustrated and find yourself saying the same things over and over again with no results? Would you like for your relationship with your child to go back to the “way it used to be”? If you have answered yes to any of the above then CPRT may be for you. CPRT is delivered 1:1, to groups of 8 or less or to staff teams from a variety of settings. Children are an integral part of the learning process but they do not attend the 2hr weekly adult group meetings. Please contact Nicola for costs
Autism & ADHD Parent Support Course
Understanding behaviour. Supporting you. Making life feel more manageable. Please join me for a gentle, relational 5-week parent programme we call How Do You Know Club?™ it is a gentle, relational, and informative five-week parent programme. It supports parents to feel more in control and more connected in relationships with their children. The relational guidance and support offered in these sessions is suitable for all ages and for children with different ways of thinking, feeling, and processing the world. Parents learn how to help their children recognise emotional states earlier rather than later, reducing overwhelm and escalation. Our work together is collaborative and responsive, with careful attention to your child’s unique brain and nervous system throughout the course. As the course progresses, parents build confidence and develop skills to guide their children to: • Name a feeling • Think about how they know they are having that feeling • Notice what is happening in their body • Identify what their body needs to feel better We explore all emotions, not just challenging ones, to build awareness of the full range of feelings in everyday life. Parents support children to listen to information their bodies are sharing, and families work out together what is needed for everyone to feel a bit better. This approach supports children and adults to manage big feelings together. Over time, this awareness and practice generates greater emotional resilience and a stronger sense of regulation for everyone. Parents attend all five sessions. Children are warmly invited to join their parent for the final session, where ideas are shared and experienced together in a playful, supportive way. What you and your child will gain • A shared language for feelings and body signals • Confidence recognising and naming emotions together • Practical ways to support regulation during dysregulation • Understanding of what behaviour may be communicating • Stronger connection, trust, and emotional safety • Foundations for lifelong emotional resilience Perfect for parents wanting nurturing, practical ways to support big emotions while strengthening their relationship with their child. Cost £150–£280 for the full 5-week programme (1 parent, with child attending the final session) Pricing is offered on a sliding scale. Please choose the rate that feels manageable for you at this time.
Breathing for Regulation
Breath Body Mind breathing practices are a gentle way of supporting our nervous system. They help reduce recovery time from overwhelm so we can reconnect with ourselves, the people around us, and enjoy more of our day. About Breath Body Mind Breath Body Mind breathing classes are gentle, warm, and inviting. They are offered as a place to rest, slow down, and reconnect with yourself in a supportive and non demanding way. The practices are simple, guided carefully, and taught at a steady pace. There is no expectation to get it right or to feel any particular way. Your practice will develop overtime. You are always welcome during group to pause, adjust and simply notice what is happening in your body. Breath Body Mind is an evidence based approach developed by psychiatrists Dr Patricia Gerbarg and Dr Richard Brown. It brings together neuroscience, physiology, and long standing breath practices to support nervous system regulation and recovery from stress. At the heart of Breath Body Mind is a simple but powerful knowledge that there is a breath pattern for every emotional state. Different breathing rhythms send different messages to the nervous system. Some patterns signal safety and support recovery. Others increase alertness or mobilisation. By learning specific breathing practices, we can work with our nervous system rather than fight against it. From a neuroscience perspective, Breath Body Mind practices influence the autonomic nervous system. They support and strengthen the parasympathetic branch, often described as the rest and restore system, and help reduce the prolonged activation of the threat response (sympathetic nervous system). Over time the practices increase heart rate variability, which reflects how quickly we can recover from overwhelm and return to thinking, choosing, and connecting. Breath Body Mind breathing practices are structured, and adaptable. I do them all day long, when I'm driving, doing the laundry, cooking, washing up, before I sleep and when i wake up. Over time they become automatic, when the stress response begins your body will start coherent breathing. This is not about forcing calm or pushing emotions away. It is about supporting our nervous system. Resonance Between the Brain and the Body In Breath Body Mind, resonance describes what happens when the brain and body begin to work together in a more coordinated way. Steady, rhythmic breathing helps organise signals between the heart, lungs, and brain, supporting the nervous system to move out of prolonged stress and into recovery. When resonance increases, many people notice they recover more quickly from overwhelm, think more clearly, and stay connected to themselves during difficult moments. Some breathing practices feel settling, while others are more activating. This is why Breath Body Mind practices are taught gently, with choice, pacing, and attention to safety.
Health note Breath Body Mind breathing practices can have different effects on the nervous system. Some practices are activating, while others create resonance and support settling and recovery. Because of this, these practices may not be suitable for everyone without adaptation. Please check with your GP, consultant, or healthcare provider before joining a class if you have a heart condition have unmanaged bipolar disorder have high blood pressure have a respiratory condition have recently had surgery or are pregnant If any of these apply, please also get in touch with Nicola before joining a class so the practices can be discussed and, where appropriate, adapted or alternatives suggested. Your safety and wellbeing always come first.
Walk & Talk Support
Walking and Talking - Working it Out Together with Nicola. We meet first for an short phone call to say hello and decide if walking and talking or an online meeting is the best place to start. These meet ups are open any person caring for a child. During our time together, I offer one to one practical, relational parenting conversations, for people who are currently finding day to day family life challenging and would like it to feel easier. The space provides a time to think, feel, and talk things through. Although these sessions are advertised as outdoors I am happy to meet online or have a phone call, if that feels more accessible. Sessions are available in • Lowestoft • Whitlingham Broad- Norwich • Bungay and Beccles Availability Mondays 9.00–10.00 Lowestoft Wednesdays 9.00–12.00 Bungay and Beccles Fridays 1.00–3.00 Norwich What’s offered? Each booking is for one hour of dedicated time with Nicola Besley, who specialises in working with families who are finding family life and relationships challenging. These sessions offer • A place to be heard • Practical parenting guidance • Space to reflect and regulate • Thoughtful, relational conversation • Support that meets you where you are. Sessions are not rushed, prescriptive, or judgement based. We focus on what is happening for you and your family right now. Location: Lowestoft, Norwich, Bungay Cost: Initial phone call is at no cost A 1hr meeting online or in person : £50, you will find a link on the booking page.
Play
Therapy
Play therapy offers the child an opportunity to explore their conscious and unconscious life experiences through play. In a safe, secure and consistent place and in the presence of a trained and attuned therapist the child is able to express themselves freely. This gives the therapist an opportunity to experience the inner world of the child and reflect this back to them, which presents the child an opportunity to hear, see and feel what they are expressing. The hoped-for outcome of play therapy is that a child will be better able to notice themselves, soothe themselves and regulate their emotions and be freer to enjoy their lives and relationships. This will increase their self-esteem, their ability to self-direct and self-manage. Please contact Nicola for Costs
Held
Please be aware the following content is sensitive. Held: A Place to be after losing your Baby I would like to offer you a place to rest and be met with kindness and understanding, and to experience being held gently. Over five weeks we will meet in a small and supportive group and gently explore, Art, Movement and Breath, as ways of grounding and settling the body. Everything is offered with choice and nothing is expected. This space if for women who have experienced the loss of a baby or infant, before birth, during birth or after birth. The group is facilitated by Nicola Besley a registered Play Therapist. The space is created and held with professional care and lived understanding and deep respect. Held offers a nurturing space rather than a therapeutic one. There is no pressure to speak, share, or explain yourself. You are welcome to come quietly, come tired, come unsure, or simply come and rest. Location: Norwich and Bungay Cost: £180-280 for a group of 5 sessions The cost is sliding please pay what you feel is right.